What we can work on together
(and any in combination)

LGBTQIA+ specific issues

  • Shame and trust issues

  • Self-esteem/Confidence

  • Understanding sexual and romantic orientation

    (this includes the grey/ace umbrella or other sexualities that might not explicitly link to sexual behaviour)

  • Understanding your intersectionality and how systems of oppression and privilege affect you

  • Gender identity

  • Gender dysphoria / body image issues

  • Hormonal changes

  • Coming out

  • Queer relationships

  • T4T

  • Chosen families and support systems

  • Bullying and discrimination

  • Processing cultural dissonance

I am also sex work, neurodivergence, kink and disability friendly.

Sex and Pleasure

  • Sexual function issues, such as painful sex, erection issues, ejaculation, orgasm issues, etc

  • Low desire or arousal

  • Shame

  • Kink/Fetishes

  • SW

  • Erotic identity

  • Disability and sex

  • Neurodiversity and sex

  • Compulsive behaviours (sometimes known as sex or love “addiction” or in conjunction with chemsex)

  • Fertility and infertility

  • Sexual health concerns

  • Past sexual trauma

  • Menopause

  • Understanding heteronormativity

Relationships

  • Communication issues

  • Conflict management

  • Differing or changing sexualities or gender identities

  • Non-monogamy and polyamory (sometimes called ENM/CNM)

  • Other alt relationship styles

  • Improving intimacy and trust

  • Differing desire/libido/sex drive

  • Affairs

  • Jealousy/envy

  • Difficult endings

  • Processing grief

  • Amicably ending a relationship

*I do not support conversion therapy practices for anyone.

*I do not do any therapy that involves touch.

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Therapy for the LGBTQIA+ Community

The LGBTQIA+ community is extremely underserved in all aspects of health care. It can be confusing, frustrating and hurtful to continually feel so misunderstood in environments where we are just trying to live our lives peacefully. This stress and anxiety can show up in many ways including in our relationships with ourselves and with others. I became a therapist because I want to help make navigating the world as an LGBTQIA+ person easier and more affirming from inside the community.

Each person is unique and has their own set of experiences to bring to the table - whatever it is, we will work together to find an approach that is right for you.

I am also sex work, neurodivergence, kink and disability friendly. If there is anything I can do to accommodate any needs you might have, please ask.

Sex therapy (aka psychosexual therapy)

It can be really hard to talk about sex and pleasure. In my sessions, we open that door at a pace that feels comfortable for you, but also at a pace which will shift that comfort zone. Whether you are experiencing low desire, have a physical issue such as trouble holding erections, or painful penetration, if you have an interest in kink or BDSM, want to explore sexual shame, trauma or discover your erotic self and identity, I can help.

I will always use the terminology YOU prefer for your body, and will respect how you identify. I do not agree with or practice any form of conversion therapy.

Relationship therapy

Whether it is two partners or more in a relationship — communication is key, but it sounds harder than it is in practice. I can help you and your partner(s) understand each others’ needs and find ways to work together, whether that is to help resolve conflict, improve trust and connection, work towards a more pleasureful sex life, open-up your relationship, or even come to an amicable ending of the relationship. It does not have to be an explicitly sexual issue you want to work on - it can be any issues that are coming up in your relationship.

If you have any questions, get in touch. Below you will find links to my fees and FAQs.

  • “Who knows what the future holds? We should not hold ourselves back for the sake of convention. Instead, we should embrace ongoing transformation as a necessary part of what it means to be alive.”

    ― Alok Vaid-Menon

  • Frequently Asked Questions

    Commonly asked questions about sex and relationship therapy and how I practice it

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  • About Shae

    Find out about who Shae is and what drew them to sex and relationship therapy.

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  • Work with me

    If you want to meet for an intro and to potentially start sessions - get in touch via my enquiry form.

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  • Fees

    Find out what the various session costs are for individuals and partner therapy.

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