Shae, with short multi-coloured hair and a red bandana looks directly at camera and smiles slightly.

Hey, I’m Shae

What I do

I am a Qualified Sex and Relationship Therapist registered as a member of COSRT, a professional body regulating therapists in this field. I qualifed with a Diploma in Clinical Sexology and Relationship Therapy from the Contemporary Institute of Clinical Sexology. I did my psychosexual therapist placements at 56 Dean Street & TransPlus, and the low cost service SexTherapyHerts. I’m also an appointed member of the Trans Advisory Panel at the charity Not A Phase and run free monthly groups on intimacy and sexuality for trans and gender queer folks (details here). I am currently working with The Outside Project - London's LGBTIQ+ Community Shelter, Centre and Domestic Abuse Refuge, offering some low-cost therapy spots. I see my in-person clients at Open Barbers in London.

You can read & listen to interviews, publications, media and podcasts I have been on on my Media page.

Although I spell out a bit more about myself below, it is important to say that just because you might have a differing identity to mine, that does not mean we can’t work together. I work with an array of people with differing identities and experiences, and you can learn more about how I work on my Specialities page and in the FAQs.

Who I am

  • I am Queer

  • I am Trans and Gender Queer

  • I am Disabled (EDS and hearing impairment)

  • I practice Non-Monogamy/Polyam

  • I am Neurodivergent (AuDHD)

  • I have been part of the kink community for 10+ years

  • I am an Immigrant

  • I am an Activist.

The main influences for me in becoming a sex and relationship therapist were:

  • Wanting to understand my own relationships, with myself and others, and discovering who I am and what I need as a person with the above identities. Having my own sex and relationship therapist opened doors to a world that I didn’t know I needed. It is a privilege to have that experience and find something that I am so passionate about doing for myself and others.

  • My background of over ten years as an organiser for various sex and queer positive events. Running workshops on consent and communicating boundaries, facilitating support groups, moderating difficult conversations and accountability processes, and learning how people navigate pleasure and relationships led me to want to make something similar into my job.

I am constantly learning and adapting with regular continued education in the areas I specialise in.

I am also open to speaking at events or on podcasts, writing for publications or working on longer-term projects - if you think I might be a good fit for your project, contact me!

Meet the rest of the team (interlopers who sit in on sessions)

  • Pippy, 4yo

    Pippy is a three-legged, sweet and cheeky grumbly-guts. He likes to sing opera in the middle of the night.

    A black and white tuxedo cat named Pippy smiling

  • Taco Greg, 2yo

    Taco is a little man, but also a potato. He is extremely smart and quick witted, known to sneak through handbags and groceries to get a bite of whatever might be going.

    A tabby cat laying down on a bean bag contemplating life. His name is Taco Greg.

  • Edweena, 13yo

    Edweena is an older eccentric lady who values her personal space. She lives a consent-led life and is very good at communicating her boundaries.

    A tortieshell cat laying on a windowsill with one paw dangling over. Her name is Edweena.